For insightful people who still feel stuck
Arielle Bailkin is a licensed therapist in New York and Florida who works with adolescents, adults, and parents. She integrates behavioral therapy, trauma treatment, and neurodiversity-affirming care to help clients turn self-awareness into practical change.
ACCEPTANCE, SKILLS & CHANGE
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Meet Arielle
Arielle Bailkin, LCSW, works with people navigating anxiety, depression, emotional overwhelm, relationship stress, pregnancy, postpartum, ADHD, autism, and AuDHD. She also has specialized experience treating trauma, PTSD, complex PTSD, emotion dysregulation, and borderline personality disorder. Many of her clients are insightful and self-aware, but feel that traditional talk therapy hasn’t helped them change the patterns they keep getting stuck in.
Arielle trained in comprehensive Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Behavioral Tech and integrates DBT, CBT, DBT-Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), with treatment tailored to the individual client.
Her work is grounded in real curiosity about the person in front of her. Arielle is interested in how your mind works, how you experience the world, and how your differences shape what feels hard, possible, overwhelming, or misunderstood.
You’ve been holding it together for a long time. You may spend so much energy masking, over-functioning, and trying to seem “normal” that people miss how much you’re actually struggling.
The ways you’ve learned to get through, avoid, shut down, or stay in control may have helped you survive, but they’re not working anymore, or they’re costing you more than they used to. At this point, you’re tired of pretending to be okay.
You want to actually be okay.
Maybe you’ve never had language for what you’re experiencing, or maybe you’ve had too much language and not enough meaningful change.
Your experience is more nuanced than a DSM checklist. Arielle works collaboratively to understand you as a complex person whose neurobiology, medical history, relationships, and lived experience all deserve careful attention.
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CHECKING IN
When you’re tired of pretending you’re fine
HOW I CAN HELP
Therapy that makes room for the whole person
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Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is an evidence-based treatment that combines cognitive-behavioral strategies with mindfulness and acceptance-based principles. DBT helps clients manage intense emotions, reduce impulsive or self-defeating behaviors, navigate distress, and build more effective relationship skills.
Arielle has experience in providing high-fidelity comprehensive DBT, DBT-informed therapy, and DBT adapted for neurodivergent clients. Her work is grounded in the core principles of DBT while also recognizing that treatment must be responsive to each client’s nervous system, context, and goals.
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Neurodiversity-Affirming Therapy
Neurodiversity-affirming therapy recognizes ADHD, autism, AuDHD, and other neurodivergent ways of being as meaningful differences in nervous system functioning, sensory processing, attention, communication, and emotional experience, not as flaws to be corrected. Treatment focuses on understanding how your brain and body actually work, reducing shame, and building supports that fit your life.For neurodivergent clients, Arielle adapts therapy to account for masking, burnout, sensory needs, executive functioning, demand sensitivity, communication differences, and nervous system capacity. This means therapy may look different from standard treatment. Skills are paced, modified, and practiced in ways that respect how you process information, recover from overwhelm, and move through daily life.
Arielle’s work also attends to the nervous system itself, including patterns of activation, shutdown, sensory overload, and the window of tolerance. The goal is not to make you appear more regulated for other people. The goal is to help you better understand your own cues, reduce self-blame, and build ways of responding that support safety, autonomy, connection, and a life that feels more workable to you.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helps clients understand how thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors influence one another. Arielle uses CBT when specific patterns of thought are sustaining anxiety, maintaining depression, fueling avoidance, or keeping overwhelm in place.
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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a trauma treatment that helps the brain reprocess memories, images, beliefs, and body sensations that feel stuck or unresolved. EMDR can be helpful when trauma is difficult to talk through directly, or when a person understands what happened but still feels emotionally or physically pulled back into it.
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DBT-Prolonged Exposure (DBT-PE) adapts Prolonged Exposure for clients who are already receiving DBT or who need a DBT framework around trauma work. DBT-PE is especially useful when PTSD occurs alongside emotion dysregulation, self-harm urges, suicidality, or other behaviors that need stabilization before trauma processing begins.
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DBT-informed eating disorder treatment integrates behavioral, emotional, and cognitive approaches to support clients struggling with binge eating disorder (BED), bulimia nervosa (BN), emotional eating, restriction, and related eating disorder symptoms. Dialectical Behavior Therapy for eating disorders (DBT-ED) focuses on understanding the emotional and nervous system functions that eating disorder behaviors may serve while building skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and more effective ways of coping.
Arielle also incorporates Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Eating Disorders (CBT-E), an evidence-based treatment focused on addressing eating disorder thoughts, behaviors, body image concerns, and patterns that maintain disordered eating over time. Treatment is individualized and adapted to each client’s emotional needs, nervous system functioning, and relationship with food, control, and self-worth.
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Parent Coaching
Arielle offers parent coaching primarily for parents of adolescents or young adults in DBT or DBT-informed treatment. Sessions may include psychoeducation, validation skills, communication strategies, limit-setting, and support around high-emotion or safety-related situations. The goal is to help parents respond more effectively while supporting the client’s treatment outside of session. -
Group therapy offers a structured space to learn skills, feel less alone, and practice new ways of relating with people who may understand parts of your experience that others miss. Arielle’s groups combine support, processing, psychoeducation, and practical tools, with attention to emotional regulation, executive functioning, identity, relationships, and daily life.
Groups are intentionally kept small so members can participate meaningfully and feel known. Depending on the group, sessions may include DBT skills, CBT-informed strategies, discussion, reflection, and between-session practice. Arielle’s group work is active and collaborative, while still making room for the real complexity of people’s lives.
THE PROCESS
Honoring your pace
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START WITH A CONVERSATION
We begin with a consultation to understand what brings you here, what has and has not helped before, and whether working together feels like the right fit.
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TAILORED THERAPY PLAN
Treatment is shaped around your goals, history, nervous system, and current capacity. Arielle draws from DBT, CBT, EMDR, DBT-PE, and other evidence-based approaches when clinically appropriate.
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ONGOING SUPPORT
Therapy is not just about insight. It is about building skills, responding differently, and making daily life feel more manageable.
FAQS
Answering your questions
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The first session is a starting point. Arielle will spend time understanding what brings you in now, what has been difficult, what you want to be different, and what previous therapy or support has felt like for you.
You do not need to arrive with a perfectly organized story. Together, you’ll begin putting the pieces together: your current concerns, history, relationships, coping patterns, strengths, and goals. From there, Arielle will begin identifying what kind of treatment may make sense.
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The length of therapy depends on what brings you in, your goals, and the kind of treatment that makes sense. Some clients come for focused work around a specific issue and meet for a shorter period of time. Others engage in longer-term therapy, especially when working with trauma, emotion dysregulation, longstanding relationship patterns, or complex histories.
Arielle will discuss pacing and goals with you throughout treatment. Therapy is not meant to be endless by default, but it also does not have to be rushed. The work is collaborative, and the timeline can shift as your needs become clearer.
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You do not need to be in crisis or have a clear diagnosis to begin therapy. Some people reach out because something feels unmanageable. Others reach out because they are functioning on the outside but feel stuck, overwhelmed, avoidant, disconnected, or exhausted internally.
A free 15-minute consultation is the best place to start. You can briefly share what brings you in, ask questions, and get a sense of whether Arielle’s approach feels like the right fit. If another provider, group, or level of care would be more appropriate, Arielle will do her best to point you in the right direction.
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Arielle works with adolescents and adults navigating anxiety, avoidance, trauma, emotion dysregulation, relationship patterns, BPD, CPTSD, ADHD, autism, AuDHD, and experiences of feeling misunderstood or reduced to a diagnosis. Her work is grounded in DBT, CBT, trauma treatment, and neurodiversity-affirming therapy.
Clients often come to Arielle after trying therapy that helped them understand themselves but did not create enough change. As a DBT therapist in NYC, Arielle helps clients build skills, understand patterns, reduce avoidance, and respond differently in daily life. She also adapts DBT and CBT for neurodivergent clients, including (but not limited to) ADHD, NLVD, dyslexic, autistic, and AuDHD adolescents and adults.
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Yes. Arielle offers in-person therapy in Manhattan, including on the Upper East Side and near Midtown/Grand Central. She also offers telehealth therapy for clients who prefer virtual sessions or who are located elsewhere in New York or Florida.
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Session length depends on the type of therapy and the clinical need.
Parent coaching sessions can range from 30–60 minutes. Family therapy sessions are typically 60 minutes. Standard individual therapy sessions are 45 minutes.
For more specialized treatments, such as EMDR or DBT-PE, session length and frequency may vary depending on the phase of treatment and what is clinically indicated. Groups are typically either 60 or 90 minutes.
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Arielle is an out-of-network provider and does not bill insurance directly. She can provide superbills for clients to submit to their insurance company for possible reimbursement through out-of-network mental health benefits.
Before beginning therapy, clients are encouraged to contact their insurance company to ask about out-of-network coverage, deductible, reimbursement rates, and whether prior authorization is required.
LET’S WORK TOGETHER
Ready to begin?
You do not need to know exactly what kind of therapy you need before reaching out. A consultation is a chance to share what brings you here, ask questions, and get a sense of whether Arielle’s approach feels like the right fit.
Not ready to schedule? Send a message.